There are many things in our lives, we usually are the good ones for ourselves, and the villains to the others, the things we do in our lives are the results of the choices we make. There are no such things as they just appear right there in our lives.
This post is about to assist the inner spirit which is left inside us, struggling with the consequences of the choices we made and the paths we took.
I am no professional expert in this, but I am quite sure that this post will make a slight change in our thought process.
The Secrets
We all love our secrets, these are the lies, bitter truths about one’s own life, scandals, call it anything that comes into your mind right now. These secrets are not going to help us in any way, least they are going to help us in keeping our promises. Still, we all love our private lives, it is bounded by hundreds of secrets, nothing is going to change in our lives as long as we are not ready to spill the truth, at least some of it.
Our lives are built on the platform called trust, relationships stand firm on that trust and they do quiver to the basements when there arise trust issues, whether it is a marriage, love, friendship or even at the workplace, this trust plays a vital role in keeping our identity and safeguarding our respect.
Keeping secrets is human nature, nobody is designed to be perfect in this vast universe, but, if these lies are hurting someone to the core and if we are not going to reveal it to them, then comes the trouble.
Our secrets are our concern until we are abided by the rules, if our secrets are not influencing the attitude and the way we communicate with the people, then it is acceptable. There must be secrecy in all our lives, but what if we crossed the limits and lied to someone and ended up hurting them? What if due to a secret something had happened which feels like we are not up to restore it?
This post will assist all of us in how to do so.
Face the truth
Facing the reality is not a kids’ play, this requires lots of courage from the deepest part of our hearts and once after admitting, we feel like we got wings.
Truth is always harsh, we all make promises, right? And what would they stand for unless we keep them as long as we are able to?
In our lives, we all go through tough times, and the most precious thing about these is they are actually going to unveil the person within us, besides these hardships also reveals us who are the persons that are going to stand with us even in our bad times.
Life is definitely a game, and there is no gambling in this, no shortcuts, each and every one of us has to face the good and bad. And we need to practice being honest with our partners. This will helps us in creating a reason for the other person to be in our lives, no matter what happens with your image, they are never going to leave you alone because you were so transparent to them.
Most people will do this, and they are called heroes. They don’t fight over for silliest things, they just forgive and forget.
I also agree that facing the truth is not possible in all the times, it requires a lie to cover up the moment from burning things up. But, once if we practice saying the truth, all that you realize is the happiness in your heart.
Learn to master the way of apologizing
Feeling sorry for something we did is different from confessing it to the person whom we caused trouble. Well, saying sorry is not many people’s things. It is like few persons don’t even thank you for what you did in their lives, and on the other hand, there are also people who will thank you for the smallest favor you did to them.
Thanking or not thanking is considered as an issue which is related to manners, but feeling sorry or saying sorry for one bad thing we did to others is considered as humanity.
And I am not being judgmental here with my above statement, we all witness such experiences in our lives too.
Maybe we are that person who is shy about being sorry, or we are that person who is going to expect the same thing from the others. The things we do are the choices we make like I said earlier in this post, here we are with those choices right in front of us. Miracles will keep on happening if we say a one-word sorry and life’s most disastrous moments will take birth if we keep on thinking about whether saying that word or not.
Saying sorry will not make you inferior or it will not consume your dignity either. But, the one which is called ego-thing will make us all regret one day.
Many relationships won’t end like we see today if the above principle is followed, maybe there are chances for both of the persons to agree to their heart’s suggestion and say sorry, forgive and move on.
Correcting our wrongs
This is not a single sitting topic, I am aware of that and also planning to write a book on this too. Correcting our wrongs takes many forms, it mainly involves our thought process, the figure we had developed in our mind against society, and past experiences.
Correcting our wrongs is all about gaining back those people who left us due to our wrongs, and to gain them back we need to be clear and make sure that we are firm in our decision-making skills and we are never going to give up on ourselves.
Friends will fight almost on all kinds of issues, as long as there is trust between them, these fights are not going to cost them anything, but if there are the trust issues, that will end up by creating huge damage to the bond.
It seems so hard to fix these all, but if we try one more time and ask for a second chance, we might get a good shot.
Doing the right thing in our lives right now is correcting ourselves and making life easier than a complicated and complex one. There are issues that cannot be resolved, and there are also wrongs that we cannot make them correct in any manner.
We should run after those mistakes which we can still make better and avoid the pain. We can only be called as humans if we think like a human.
Conclusion
This post came out of nowhere in my mind, I had no pre-planning to write about it. It is completely random and I can say this as a prevention post of the writer’s block.
But, I am pretty sure that there are some vendettas in our lives, perhaps we can correct them and settle them once and for all with our ‘giving up ego’ kind of attitude. I have applied the same in my life and earned back the trust of a friend.
Those misunderstandings are not supposed to be there unattended for a long time. This is the time, your move to make.
